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Unfortunately, this has always bee= n something I have to do here and there... so I push through. In certain si= tuations, I find that I have to put on a mask and pretend that I am confide= nt and feel good, while other times it feels more authentic or genuine. Som= etimes I can't even tell which is happening or why! How can I differentiate= between the two and work to always be in a flow state=3F Sincerely, Flow S= tate vs. Whoa State=0D=0A=0D=0ADanielle Writes: Dear Flow State vs. Whoa St= ate, You already seem to understand the difference between showing up authe= ntically and performing for others =E2=80=94 but let's give it a name. In t= rauma recovery, we call that performance fawning: a threat response where w= e create harmony in our environment, often at our own expense. It can look = like people-pleasing, minimizing your needs, or shrinking yourself to feel = safe. The core question underneath it is simply: does it feel safe to be ho= nest, even when it's inconvenient=3F Here's a simple gut-check. Before: is = your self-talk encouraging, or fear-based=3F During: are you focused on the= goal, or on how you're coming across=3F After: do you feel satisfied, or d= rained=3F Flow feels like a satisfying challenge =E2=80=94 you have the cla= rity and capacity to execute without overthinking. Fawning keeps one eye on= the audience: do they like me=3F Flow asks: how do I want them to feel=3F = Staying in flow permanently was never a realistic expectation. Your nervous= system is designed to ebb and flow, and rest is not failure. What is possi= ble is expanding your window of tolerance, and you build that by building t= rust with yourself. Rest when you're tired. Eat when you're hungry. The mor= e you listen to your body, the more available flow becomes. If public speak= ing feels like a threat, sit with this honestly: is it truly required, or h= ave you assumed it is=3F If it is, what specifically feels threatening, and= is that fear rooted in the present, or something older=3F Can you accommod= ate yourself with smaller groups, shorter talks, adjusted settings=3F And p= erhaps most importantly: this may be less of a discernment issue and more o= f an agency issue. Do you feel permitted to set limits around your own comf= ort=3F "I have to" is worth pausing on =E2=80=94 it's often where we hand o= ur power away without noticing. A mask can be a tool or a hiding place. Whe= n did you learn that pushing through was the safest option=3F =E2=80=94 Dan= ielle=0D=0A=0D=0AWe look forward to your future submissions to Dear Daniell= e, and can't wait to see you at the Slowdown Summit on April 27. Get your t= icket today! Rest up. Slow down. 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A subscriber writes:

 

Dear D= anielle,

 

I experience stage fright an= d I generally dislike public speaking. Unfortunately, this has always been = something I have to do here and there... so I push through. In certain situ= ations, I find that I have to put on a mask and pretend that I am confident= and feel good, while other times it feels more authentic or genuine. Somet= imes I can't even tell which is happening or why! How can I differentiate b= etween the two and work to always be in a flow state=3F


Sincerely,

Flow State vs. Whoa State

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Danielle Writes:

= Dear Flow State vs. Whoa State,

 

You already seem to understand the difference between showin= g up authentically and performing for others =E2=80=94 but let's give it a = name. In trauma recovery, we call that performance fawning: a threat response where we create harmony in our= environment, often at our own expense. It can look like people-pleasing, m= inimizing your needs, or shrinking yourself to feel safe. The core question= underneath it is simply: does it feel saf= e to be honest, even when it's inconvenient=3F

 

Her= e's a simple gut-check. Before: is your self-talk encouraging, or fear-base= d=3F During: are you focused on the goal, or on how you're coming across=3F= After: do you feel satisfied, or drained=3F Flow feels like a satisfying c= hallenge =E2=80=94 you have the clarity and capacity to execute without ove= rthinking. Fawning keeps one eye on the audience: do they like me=3F Flow asks: how do I want them to feel=3F

 =

Staying= in flow permanently was never a realistic expectation. Your nervous system= is designed to ebb and flow, and rest is not failure. What is possible is = expanding your window of tolerance, and you build that by building trust wi= th yourself. Rest when you're tired. Eat when you're hungry. The more you l= isten to your body, the more available flow becomes.

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<= span style=3D"line-height:24px;font-size:16px;" class=3D"qb sb">If public s= peaking feels like a threat, sit with this honestly: is it truly required, = or have you assumed it is=3F If it is, what specifically feels threatening,= and is that fear rooted in the present, or something older=3F Can you acco= mmodate yourself with smaller groups, shorter talks, adjusted settings=3F A= nd perhaps most importantly: this may be less of a discernment issue and mo= re of an agency issue. Do you feel = permitted to set limits around your own comfort=3F "I have to" is worth pau= sing on =E2=80=94 it's often where we hand our power away without noticing.= A mask can be a tool or a hiding place. When did you learn that pushing th= rough was the safest option=3F

 

=E2=80=94 Danielle

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We look forward to your future subm= issions to Dear Danielle, and can't wait to see you at the Slowdown Summit = on April 27. Get your ticket today!

 

Rest up. Slow down. Lead diffe= rently. =F0=9F=8C=B1

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